How often do you catch yourself in a state of lost faith, wandering the mental mine-field of wishing for a different life? We all do it, the if only ego echoes, "If only"…I had a better job, … a different house, … a partner/was with a different partner, etc., etc., etc. The trick to getting past this is tending your gratitude garden with thoughts of, “I want what I have”.
There is nothing wrong with wanting more out of life that is currently on your plate, that's what keeps us going. It’s about staying present while on the journey that matters. It really comes down to trusting the universe and knowing that every experience brings a lesson that helps to handle the next experience. Wanting what you got is a state of mind where no matter where you are in the journey, you can relax knowing this is your path, not to be compared to anyone. Relax into the wisdom that whatever happened in the past or will happen in the future won't change what is happening now. Now is the time to be happily present doing what you need to do to enjoy the moments and make tomorrow another happy present. I want what I have quiets the inner critic and supports the inner fan by being ok with or finding the silver lining on what is happening on your life.
I have my share of regrets. No sticking with the job at Apple. Getting in trouble with the law. Not having a family. Often after spending time with friends and their kids I ache for a family. Even after being reminded of the work and responsibility that goes with raising children I wonder what a life like that would feel like. As time passes I’m reminded that the life I do have is exactly as it should be. I’ve learned to trust the universe by embracing reality and try to show up 100% here and now. The grass is not always greener, that family pie dream might have turned out to be a nightmare, I’ll never know and am OK with the uncertainty.
Wanting what you don’t have is a set-up for a setback, there will always be something missing. Want what you have and you will have it all.